Putney, VT – Marie Graves died in her sleep from complex medical problems on December 12, 2021, at her home in Putney, VT. She was born Marie Charlotte Proehl (rhymes with bucket) at her home in Iowa City, Iowa on January 7, 1931, the sixth of seven children, to Arthur Proehl, a Lutheran pastor (ALC), and Margaret Kuhlmann Proehl. Marie attended Iowa City Public Schools and graduated with a Bachelor of Science in Nursing from State University in 1953. She met Thomas Graves while they were working as students at the Teaching Hospital for Crippled Children. Marie’s father married them in September 1953.
Tom’s duty in the Navy took them to Hawaii, where Thomas, Jr., was born, and to Silver Spring, MD, where Mary gave birth to Andrew and William. William died of staphylococcal pneumonia at the age of 21 months. Marie worked as a nurse until she became a mother, and later, briefly, when her children were growing up.
Sarah was born in New Jersey in 1960 and Edward in Manhattan in 1964. Mary taught our severely dyslexic son to read using Spalding’s The Writing Road to Reading. As a result of this program, the Dalton School in New York hired Marie, where she taught second grade for two years until the family moved to Weston, CT, in 1970. At CT, Marie taught in a school for the disabled and worked as a nurse in a rehabilitation hospital. . The family also lived in Cheshire and New Haven, CT, until Tom retired from IBM in Springfield (Eastman), NH, in 1989. Mary and Tom moved to Ed’s in Putney, VT, in 2016.
Later in life Marie enjoyed hostels for the elderly, numerous continuing education courses in Dartmouth (ILEAD), playing the recorder and being an active member of the Kearsarge Unitarian Universalist Fellowship in the New London area. , NH.
Mary was a devoted and loving daughter, wife and mother. Friends called her the best cook they had ever known; being both generous and practical, she bought local and organic products from food cooperatives wherever she lives. She was a seamstress, gardener, hiker with childish delight in nature, and an industrious and cheerful housewife. A daughter-in-law spoke for all of us: “Mary has left such a hole in our lives. She is survived by her husband, Thomas, 4 children, 7 grandchildren and several nieces and nephews. The family are planning a Unitarian memorial service at First Baptist Church in New London, NH, at 11 a.m. on Saturday, January 8, 2022.
Posted by Valley News on December 26, 2021.