Alan Turman was supposed to start the next chapter of his life. He had just married his best friend, Shannon Turman, and they had planned a huge King and Queen-themed wedding reception for the coming weekend. Everything was going to be white and gold. They each had a crown to wear.

After getting married in a private civil ceremony on August 24, Shannon Turman said, her husband was thrilled to celebrate their wedding with friends and family. It was going to be a big party, she said.

“He was so excited about it,” she said. “He had never been married before. We were excited to start our new life together.

They were going to travel and each had new business ventures they planned to develop together. After 15 years of friendship and on-and-off dating, they were finally married and looked forward to their future together, she said.

On Saturday, Turman – who was called Jermaine, his middle name – was shot and killed in the parking lot of the Oasis of Hope Baptist Church, where he was serving as a pallbearer at his mother-in-law’s funeral. He was 42 years old.

Shannon Turman said the shooter was her ex-husband, against whom she had a protective order. He came to his mother’s funeral, she said, looking for the couple. Jermaine asked the man to leave and a fight broke out. Mourners broke up the fight, but Turman said her ex-husband got into his car, drove up to Jermaine and shot him twice in the chest.

“I am deeply, deeply hurt,” she said. “That person I was married to would have so much hate that they wouldn’t want to see someone go on with their life and be happy.

“He saw that Jermaine and I were really happy together. We really loved each other. It was taken from both of us.

Jermaine’s mother, Pamela Grant, was trying to get her son home after the fight. She had also been at the funeral, to support her son and daughter-in-law.

She had accompanied him to his car, and as she opened the passenger door for her son, a white vehicle approached them.

“It was the ex-husband,” Grant said. “He looked directly at me. He shot my son twice. And then he left.

“My son hit the ground.”

Grant said another man called 911 and tried to keep his son alive while they waited for emergency services. She watched as the man applied pressure to the bullet wounds and found a weak pulse. She heard when the man said he couldn’t feel a pulse and watched him try chest compressions.

“He said, ‘I lose it,'” she said. “Then my son looked at me. His eyes started rolling in his head. We lost it.

He was pronounced dead at the scene shortly before 1 p.m., according to police reports. A spokesperson for the Indianapolis Metropolitan Police Department said they were speaking to a person of interest. Turman’s family said they were told the shooter was in custody.

Grant said his son had tough times and got into trouble when he was younger. But he had changed her life, she said.

“My son was fine,” she said. “He had changed his life.”

He would have turned 43 later this month.

Turman was named for his uncle, Grant’s brother Alan, who has since died.

“He had all these girls,” she said. “He wanted a boy. I had a boy, so he said, ‘You have to name him.’ »

Grant also wanted to name him after another important man in his life: Jermaine Jackson, brother of Michael Jackson and member of the Jackson 5.

“I said, ‘I have to put this Jermaine in there, too,'” she said. “That’s how he got his name.”

They lived in Danville, Illinois at the time. Grant moved his family to Indianapolis in 1988 so his daughter, Tanya, could attend the Indiana School for the Deaf. Tanya Turman, who was deaf and partially blind, was killed in a hit-and-run in 2015. Her other daughter, Tisha Croom, is now Grant’s only living child.

“All this shooting and stuff…people just need to stop,” Grant said. “Lower the weapons. We lose our children.

Turman had five children, ages 12 to 22. Shannon Turman said her husband was a loving father.

He was a creative person, she said, who enjoyed painting and creating abstract art. He was also a talented fashion designer, she said, and was particularly good at making distressed clothes. He was interested in politics, history, science and also researched something new.

They met 15 years ago while both doing culinary jobs at the Fishers Conference Center, brought together by a shared love for food and service. Shannon is a chef and specializes in desserts.

“He had such dreams and aspirations for his life,” she said.

And he’s never met a stranger, she says. He liked to talk and laugh.

“He was a wonderful man,” she said. “He was my best friend. I was so excited to see him at the reception, to see him so excited to share our wedding with everyone.

He had chosen a special costume to wear for the occasion. Now, says Turman, she will bury her husband there instead. His mother must also be buried, as those services were postponed after the shooting.

“All these years we were friends and we loved each other,” she said, “and we finally had the chance to get married and be one. … And he was ripped away from us.

Call IndyStar education reporter Arika Herron at 317-201-5620 or email her at [email protected] Follow her on Twitter: @ArikaHerron.

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